How To Lose Your Big “But”

It’s that time of year again. The time when gyms and fitness studios are overrun with people committed to getting healthy in the new year. But we all know that by February and March, those crowds have thinned out, and many people have returned to their old ways. If you are one of those people who struggles to get started or stick with your healthy New Year’s resolutions, we think it’s time that you lose your big BUT!

No, we aren’t talking about your booty. We’re talking about the BUT that keeps you from giving yourself the chance to succeed at your goals. “But I’m too…” fill in the blank with any number of excuses. We get it-- starting or getting back into a fitness program is tough. But for the thousands of reasons you can come up with to avoid getting started, there’s one GREAT reason to give it your best shot---YOU! Don’t let your big ol “but” get in the way of your success.

We wouldn’t be good trainers if we didn’t help you work on your “but” so we’ve each addressed three of the most common “buts” we encounter---and how to get over them. Trust us, we’ve struggled with a few of these ourselves. Here’s to a strong, fit, and fabulous new year---no if’s, ands, or BUTS!

Bonny & Wes

1. But I’m too… BUSY. Aren’t we all? Wes and I both juggle full time jobs, side hustles, spouses/partners, families, children, and social lives—yet we still manage to schedule our workouts into our week. Why? Because we’re both really bitchy when we don’t work out! I’m kidding—but only a little because the reality is that when you don’t take the time to take care of yourself, you have nothing left to give to anyone else. So we make it a priority. It might mean getting up an hour earlier, or having a gym bag packed and ready in the car for those days when you have to squeeze it in on the fly. But the bottom line is this: everyone has the same 24 hours in a day—find one and make it yours.

2. But I’m too… OLD. I hear this one a lot from my 40-something peers. And I’ll admit –when I’m performing at less than my best, I can get wrapped up in it too. I know the “age is just a number” thing is cliché—but it’s also true. I didn’t run my first half-marathon until I was 45. I didn’t complete my first century ride or tackle my first triathlon until I was 46. You see the pattern here. I’m in better shape in my 40s than I was in my 20s. If you feel good and you have a body that allows you to move, don’t let a stupid number hold you back from living a healthy, active life. In fact, as we get older it is more important than ever to take care of our bodies so that we can manage or avoid some of the pitfalls that come with aging like decreased bone density, or loss of muscle mass. Remember: it is never too late to try something new.

3. But I’m too… SCARED. When people are embarking on a new fitness journey, there are basically two fears. The first is fear of failure. No one likes to fail, but the reality is that we can’t all succeed 100% of the time. The trick to losing this “BUT” is not to confuse a slip up with a failure. One bad choice does not equal a bad life. Skipped the gym? Hit it tomorrow. Ate a cheeseburger and fries? Get back on your meal plan the next day. Don’t throw in the towel and declare yourself incapable of sticking to your goals. Perspective here is everything.

On the flip side, there are those who fear success. If you’ve always been the overweight person in the squad, or if you come from a family where health and fitness is not a priority, you might wonder where you will fit in now. Yes, there are lifestyle changes that you will have to make and people that might not understand, but that’s no reason to quit. Explain why you want to make these changes and ask your friends and family to support you. Focus on your goals and do what’s best for you. It might mean suggesting alternatives to happy hour with your peeps, or bringing your own dish to the family dinner. But once they see your results, it might inspire them to make some changes in their own lives too.

4. But I’m too… SELF-CONSCIOUS. Walking into a crowded gym or fitness studio this time of year can be very intimidating, even for the experienced fitness fanatic. The energy and expectation levels are high, which can radiate and make you feel extra pressure. I understand how this can affect your confidence and desire to workout if you’re already feeling pressure from yourself. But remember that most people who are at the gym are there to do the same thing you are---get a good workout in and get out.

I know it’s easier said than done, but don’t let the fear of being judged by others stop you from achieving your fitness dreams. Remember we’ve all started somewhere and experienced the same fears, insecurities and self-doubt---what matters is what you do with them. Pull all that nervous energy together and use it to drive you---- let it be the fuel to your fire.

You know what also helps? A killer playlist! Create your own power playlist full of anthems that speak of confidence and self-love and tune out all your bad thoughts. Because in the words of Britney, you better work b#&%H!

5. But I’m too… BROKE. We know money can be tight post holiday season, but don’t let the fact that you can’t spend $25 dollars a class get you down. Fortunately there are many workout plans available for you to use for FREE right at your fingertips, or even at your local community centers. One of my favorite websites to use is PopSugar Fitness. They offer a ton of 30 and 45-minute workouts that you can do at home---many without equipment! You can also check out BodyArchitecture’s SCULPT page for more free circuit and tabata style workouts.

If you prefer to workout in a group setting check out Powered by the Mayor’s Fitness Council, this site offers a comprehensive listing of free and discounted fitness classes throughout the city. You can find Zumba, strength training, boot camps, swimming and more taught by qualified instructors. BodyArchitecture held a free circuit class through this organization last year and we can’t wait to host another one! You can also download the site’s Choose Healthier App for mobile access to the information.

6. But I’m too… OVERWHELMED. Getting motivated to workout is half the battle, but figuring out how and what to do can be very overwhelming. One of the best parts of your journey is figuring out what you enjoy doing and realizing how much fun exercising can be. Just because your best friend enjoys indoor cycling doesn't mean it’ll be your cup of tea---don’t feel pressured do what everyone else is doing. If you’re open to trying new things you can register with Class Pass or StudioHop and get access to studios and gyms all over the city for one fee. This allows you to explore all different types of exercise programs and find the one that’s right for you.

Another option is personal training. A good trainer can create a customized workout program based on your skill level and schedule. Plus it gives you an additional level of accountability and support. As a trainer, I love getting to know my clients, finding what drives them, and helping them find their path to long-term success.