A couple weeks ago I made a trip to Houston to attend my company Christmas party on a Friday and holiday happy hour with my best friends that Thursday. At the happy hour we celebrated the 36th birthday of one of our spiciest gal pals and someone asked her what was the most profound thing she learned during her 36 years---she answered, we’re all just figuring it out. What she said hit my like a truck because I couldn’t agree more.
Hearing my friends’ response put me at ease because I knew I wasn’t alone. Every year that I get older I keep thinking that things will get easier and I’ll have more of the answers to the questions I ask, but it turns out I don’t. For a while that scared me but then I started to think about it in a different way.
If I didn’t grow or change I probably would have more of the answers but that’s not who I am or want to be. Because I thrive on new experiences, challenges and meeting new people it makes it impossible for me to have all the answers, it's something I’m learning to accept.
Part of what makes life beautiful are the opportunities and uncertainties we encounter on a daily basis that create so many questions. How am I going to be balance my relationships with my family and friends if I take on this new opportunity? Will I ever get to raise a child of my own? And my favorite---am I doing enough every day with the life I’ve been given to feel fulfilled?
As someone who spends the majority of his time organizing, planning, forecasting issues & managing project deadlines/people it’s difficult to turn off those problem solving skills when I need to. When I’m unable to flip the switch I find myself overwhelmed and often times will pull away from everyone. One of my goals for this year is to try and not problem solve or predict every part of my life and enjoy the journey it is. I often preach the phrase “everything happens for a reason and It’ll always work itself out”--if I truly believe this then I need to live by it. I’m learning we’re not supposed to understand everything or always have the answer and that’s perfectly OK.
It’s comforting to me to know that I'm not alone, whether you’re a CEO, stay at home mom or new college graduate we all have our own problems that we're trying to solve. They aren't easy and you may not always make the right choice but you're doing the best that you can.
So take a deep breathe, worry less, be patient & live in the moment---we only get one ride so make it a good one.